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Cake day: June 2nd, 2023

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  • So I’m not sure how much you care about the opinion of someone who is not Trans and has no friends who are, but here is my hot take.

    Your mother was raised with certain expectations. For decades she was taught boys are a certain way, and anything else is weird and should be suppressed and resisted.

    Maybe I can explain better like this - here is what I would say to your mother, assuming I understand the situation correctly.

    Mom, I don’t know what you really think or feel, but the way you have acted at times makes me think you were hoping this was just a phase for me. That I might “change my mind” and go back to being “normal”. I can tell you love me and want to support me, but it feels like you are holding back because you are hoping i will get over it or something.

    This is who I am. I couldn’t change back if I wanted, and I don’t want to anyways. I love you and I know you love me. I just wish you could get over the awkwardness of accepting who I am so it doesn’t feel like you are so conflicted on showing me all your love. I try to remember that this hasn’t been easy for you either, but I can’t help but sometimes feeling hurt by the way you only seem to sometimes support my decisions.

    Again, I love you and know you love me, I just wanted you to know how I’m feeling and what it seems like from my perspective. Please talk to me if you are confused about anything I am going through. I will try and remember that this hasn’t been easy for you either.