Retronautickz

Basically, Lemmy communities and Kbin magazines are federated as groups to the micro and macroblogging fediverse. People in friendica, mastodon or Firefish can interact with Lemmy and kbin by mentioning a community/magazine in their posts and following them the way they do with other types of federated groups (like guppe, chirp, friendica forums, etc)

Pixelfed didn’t have federates group support, meaning that its federation with the threadiverse was bad, not to say practically non-existent. Supporting federated groups and even having its own type of group will allow people on pixelfed to interact with Lemmy and Kbin the way other fediverse software do: following them and tagging the community/magazine handle in posts.

short summary: It means better federation between Pixelfed, and Lemmy and Kbin.

What they don’t seem to understand is that in the fediverse it’s them who are responsible for curating their own experience, there’s no big content algorithm doing it for them here.

It’s their job to join communities they may like and then set their main page to “subscribed”. They don’t have to keep it set in “ALL” if they don’t want to see content from all the servers their server federates with/isn’t defederated from.

Lemmy and kbin may be discussion platforms/link aggregators, but they aren’t reddit.

Ulrichs also came up with the concepts of disjunctive bisexuality and conjunctive bisexuality, which are the oldest recorded instances of someone talking about what we nowadays would call Split attraction model and variorientation (disjunctive orientation) Vs periorientation (conjunctive orientation).

Yes and no. LGBT and it’s variations are “neutral”, while queer has a strong anti-assimilationist meaning behind. Queer also can easily represent uncommon or complex identities/orientations that aren’t (easily) represented by the acronym

Then, I’ll suggest taking a look at labels like xirl or girlby/engirl, that express all possible intersections between been a girl and been non binary. Maybe they could work for the other part of your gender.

No, I mean it depends on how each nonbinary person see it.

For some people the base gender is the same, or their gender is related/derived from the binary gender they were assigned. These people may not consider themselves trans, but rather cis or any other gender modality.

There’s no “IMO that’s not the gender they were assigned at birth” when many non-binary people do, in fact, feel they still relate to their AGAB or that their gender and their AGAB are the same or similar.

You don’t need to label the other part if you aren’t sure what is it.

But if you really want to, do you think the second part of your gender could be both girl and NB? Something in-between the two? A girl in a non-binary way? An enby in a girl way?

Have you taken a look at labels like nymgirl, juxera, quella, etc that express a nonbinaryness that is also (in) directly related to girlness?

Yeah, I wasn’t saying that those things cannot be separated, just that they aren’t necessarily.

The label a person uses to describe their gender can be influenced by their presentation, orientation, or the gender roles they want to perform. Someone who says they’re certain gender because they (want to) perform the gender roles associated to that gender isn’t necessarily confusing concepts.

The human gender and attraction experience is so complex that it cannot be put into strict boxes that never mix.

In fact, all of the labels you described here (butch, femme, bear) are all distinct expressions of gender identity, although some of these labels largely overlap with sexuality labels as well, none of them invalidate or have to overlap with gender identity.

My point was that all these labels, apart from being presentations and queer dynamics/roles, are also genders for many people.

Some people are Butch [gender], where butch refers to their expression; other people are butch, and only butch, where butch itself is their gender.

No, I don’t mean which labels you use, but rather what adjectives do you associate with your gender.

You say you’re confused about your gender, what part confuses you?

If you had to assign adjectives to your gender, which would those be?

They do not have to be gender qualities (masculine, feminine, etc)

I’m gonna have to disagree on presentation and orientation being unrelated to gender. Not only do those things influence each other, but one’s presentation (which includes more than how you dress) and orientation can be one’s gender. Think of people who use butch, femme, bear, etc as their genders, or people who are arogender.

This limited view of “gender, presentation and orientation are different” only work to explain cishet people that a gay man isn’t less of a man for liking men. But it cannot and should not stop us from seeing how for many queer people not being straight/cishet affects the way they relate (or not) with the binary system, that there are gay men that see their manhood as influenced by their gayness, thus different from binary straight manhood.

Not all nonbinary people identify as a gender other than the one they were assigned, though. Some identify with their AGAB, but in a way that’s outside the binary.

Sometimes, especially in the case of neopronouns, two set of pronouns share nominative form, but are distinguished from each other in their accusative form

For example: ze/hir vs ze/zir.

So, in those case, is to especify Which specific “ze” pronoun the person is talking about.

This also applies to “she” and “he” as pronoun sets like she/shim, she/sher or he/her are also a thing.

I avoid telling people my AGAB, because if I do they instantly want to classify me as a gender I’m not. It’s clear that many people, even those who are queer themselves, see and use “AFAB enby” to mean “cis woman-lite” and “AMAB enby” to mean “cis man-lite”.

I’m an aphorian, none of my genders are man or woman. I may have some genders that are similar or proximal to those two, but they are still distinct genders.

I don’t want to be associated with or read as a man nor as a woman; and when people ask for my agab, they’re mostly asking to know how to binarise me “correctly”

Gender diverse people have always associated our genders to things that are unrelated to gender as a way to shown a separation from the binary system.

This is different from queer-antagonistic meme you mentioned.

I would suggest you to read about queer gender dynamics (many of which make reference to animals) and xenogenders.

romo aro/cupioro here

I’ve been in romantic-ish (romantic, queerromantic, appromour, etc) relationships, and I enjoy them quite a lot, something I know it’s uncommon within the aro community. I not sure if I ever felt your typical romantic attraction, but I’ve felt something close to it (queerromantic) and something completely separated and distinct from both romantic and platonic attraction (like exteramo).

I also enjoy romantic media, although I’m too demi (queerromantic/exteramo) for love at first sight stories lol

What I have trouble with (because I feel rejection towards these type of bonds and relationships, especially if they’re been applied to me) is platonic and queerplatonic relationships. I never had the impulse to form and maintain friendships, nor I ever understood the need or usefulness of them.

This.

It might be something related to this rule:

The following types of content are explicitly disallowed and will result in revocation of access to the service:

1. Sexual depictions of children

The server admin, might be including minor posting nsfw content under this rule.

Weird, because I follow people from that server on my microblog accounts and I’ve seen them making sexual jokes (properly tagged)

fedi196.gay which currently isn’t loading for me

Nor for me. I have an account there, or had because it looks like it might have gone offline.

It makes sense, if we’re only talking about midbinary genders. But as someone with a lot of abinary genders, no, I wouldn’t be able to use this scale to quantify most of my genders.

They all would end up with 0,0,0, which in no way quantifies the differences in quality and intensity between them.