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  • GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.eetoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlHow do I cope with my father hating me?
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    7 months ago

    I relate to this. My father isn’t as openly hostile as yours sounds, but he’s a narcissist. One year, he decided he was to busy to visit my kids, his grandkids. He’s retired.

    For me, there is an emotional tug that will always be there, not for him, but for a father that loves me. Rationally, I remind myself of why I haven’t talked to him in 5 years. It’s gotten easier over time, but it still flares up occasionally.




  • When people in my friend group say dumb shit, I don’t attack them for it. I mildly question it. I’ll respond with “eh… I dunno about that.” or “you sure about that?” or “that’s not cool, dude.” something mild. Give them a chance to save face. If their behavior keeps up, I amp up my responses in strength. “that’s seriously wrong.” or “knock if off” in a more stern tone.

    If that doesn’t work, I’ll state that I don’t really like what’s going on and I don’t wanna be around that. You can’t control others, and so I imply I’m thinking of leaving. If they still change their behavior then maybe it’s time to leave.

    People change over time, you’ve changed, they’ve changed. Maybe the season of this friend group has passed.







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